A Man's Humility

"In my country we have a name for a warrior with the vision to be just and the courage to show mercy.  We call him -- The Cid"

-- Moutamin

     There is a particularly dramatic scene in an inspiringly dramatic movie, about a truly inspiring  and dramatic historical character whose name was Rodrigo Diaz de Vivar.  He was called "El Cid", named such by his Arabic friends and enemies.  It means "The Lord."  In this scene, a Spanish nobleman played by Charlton Heston holds the King of Spain to task for the murder of his Royal brothers, which allowed him to gain ascension to the throne.  In front of the people of the Kingdom, Cid forces the King to place his hand on the Bible and swear to God that he was not involved in the murder of  his own brothers.  In a startlingly masculine and powerful act,  El Cid risks his own subservient status as a King's noble in order to be certain of the integrity of his own sword and his allegiance to the King.  He humbles a King.  He does so in public.  Of course, the King feels humiliated and immediately plots revenge.

     The King is "humbled" but at the same time the King feels "humiliated."  How do we reconcile the two concepts?  Well, Gentlemen, as we continue our stroll down  Manhood Lane your favorite Old Doc is going to argue for another vital trait essential for building your true Manhood.  And that trait, really, that goal, is Humility.  St Paul advocates:


And fbe not conformed gto this world: but hbe ye transformed by ithe renewing jof your mind, that ye may kprove what is that good, and cacceptable, and perfect, lwill of God. 3 For I say, mthrough the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, nnot to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think †soberly, oaccording as God hath dealt to every man pthe measure of faith. 4 qFor as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office: 5 So we, rbeing many, sare one body in Christ, and every one tmembers one of another. 6 uHaving then gifts differing oaccording to mthe grace that is given to us, whether wxprophecy, let us prophesy according to the proportion of faith; 7 Or yministry, let us wait on our ministering: or zhe that teacheth, on wateaching; 8 Or bhe that exhorteth, on cexhortation: dhe that ||giveth, let him do it ||with simplicity; ehe that ruleth, with fdiligence; he that sheweth mercy, gwith cheerfulness.   

                                                                                                                                                                --Romans 12:2


     For  a Man attempting to fulfill true Manhood today, the obstacles are daunting.  The Left's demands have become more than shrill.  They are now irreconcilable  with not only Manhood, but Family, Womanhood, Religion, Property and Freedom.  Disagree with Homosexual Marriage, the Kyoto Treaty, or the Second Amendment to the U.S. Constitution and you Boyz are pummeled, often legally, with the now familiar mantra of racist-sexist-homophobic-right wing-gun toting-Christian-polar bear haters.  Hey Fellas, forget looking for cover from politicians, judges, or the media.  Of all the enemies of humanity, the American Male is ENEMY NUMBER ONE, and those cowards will always betray you for cheap praise.

     Yup, you Boyz are Godzilla, chupacabra, the bogey-man, and cigar-smoking Rush Limbaugh all in one.  Yikes!   By the time you recover from the public stoning you Buds are gonna wanna run right to the kitchen, put on your aprons, and start dicing bell peppers!  Nah, c'mon sack it up....you Boyz have got to start looking elsewhere for help;   learn to rely on His Word.  The Good Book.  It's all in there.  Wisdom of the Ages.  Purity.  Fealty.  Devotion.  Love.  Humility.  Powerful.  Lasting.  Satisfying.  Effective.  Why would you think our Founding Fathers made the FIRST Amendment to the U.S. Constitution about freedom to worship?

   

   
     What does Humility have to do with Manhood you ask?  And why keep bringing religion into the mix?   Well for one, the Son of God was the epitome of Manhood.  Yeah, a real hombre.   He demonstrated enormous power by bringing Lazarus back from the dead,  and brought sight to the blind.   And yet for the sake of the world's sinners He turned right around and  humbled himself by allowing Jewish and Roman humiliation on His body throughout his Passion.  He allowed Himself to be nailed to a tree......one, an act of the ultimate power of His choosing;  the other the obscene human debasement and degradation by his misguided inferiors.....The Old Testament is nothing if not a testament to Man's need to be humble --yeah, or else.  The New Testament is witness to the individual humility of The Christ, often at the feet of his human tormentors.  It turns out that Humility is yet another one of those pesky requirements Providence has laid out especially for the fulfillment of true Manhood.

     Now getting back to illustrative theatre,  Rodrigo did indeed become the victim of the King's vindictive petulance.   Exiled, stripped of all his lands, wealth and status.  ANY person caught aiding him anywhere in the Kingdom would be executed.   The now exiled ex-nobleman  is shown riding into a deserted shrine with the three crosses in the background.

What ensues is, in the Old Doc's opinion, even more dramatic and more inspiring than his public humbling of the King of Spain.  A leper, Lazarus, reveals himself, crying out "I thirst, Lord Knight, I thirst."  The Cid stops and without hesitation gives him drink from his own pouch;  and then actually gives him the water pouch to keep.  Lazarus gratefully thanks "my Cid."  Expressing surprise at how this destitute leper knew him, Lazarus exclaims, "there is only one man in Spain that could humble a king and give a leper to drink from his own pouch"........ Wow.

     Gentlemen, can you truthfully say that you do NOT want to be this Man someday?  Take the few minutes to  watch this moving depiction in its entirety.  You may never see a more poignant tutorial on a the glory of a Man's Humility.  You may never otherwise connect the  magnificence of Christ the King's powerfully masculine sacrifice with Manly humility.   As you view this scene, consider the enormity of  willingly accepting human frailty and torture for Divine purpose.

(Or, Go to:  youtube.com, "El Cid - Lazarus the Leper")
   
     This Old Doc would contend that most men actually require a modicum of humiliation in order to finally achieve more or less humility.  I say "more or less" because very few men ever have achieved complete humility, that is, complete,  down-on-the-knees devotion to the will of God and the Ten Commandments;  purity in "loving your neighbor as you would love yourself."  Yeah Bud, that stuff again.

     Most of us Men require repeated episodes of humiliation in order to approximate true humility.   Some more, some less.   Other people may try to humiliate you, but only you can actually feel humiliated.  Therefore humiliation is a self-centered, even selfish, state.  It revolves around you, my friends -- how YOU "take" it, how you feel about it, how you react to it.  The "it" here can be anything from silence, a raised eyebrow, tender words, harsh words, prison, lashings, keel-hauling, crucifixion, bile in your wine.....or even, The Truth.

     If you are a Coptic Christian, for example, you may regard your own beheading by ISIS, NOT as a humiliation, but as a truly humble act of faith and devotion to God Almighty.    ISIS intends humiliation, but the faithful Christian may regard this sacrifice as humbling in the eyes of God.  On the other hand if you get really angry, take your ball and stomp home, causing your own mother's grief in order to gratify your overinflated sense of importance, well.....you may well feel enormous humiliation once you admit to your innermost self that you have been a self-centered, selfish coward, and a horse's ass.  Or not.  This childish behavior will certainly never grow humility.   But  you still have your own head on your shoulders!........  See the difference?  The Coptic Christian is suffering objectively far worse in the horror of what is to come, and in the moment of the act itself.  Yet degree of physical suffering is not the distinction between humility and humiliation.  One is in the service of God.  The other involves only the obsession of self.  Suffering because you obey God's Commandments is humble;  suffering because you act as if YOU are God......humiliation.

     Men who achieve perfect humility are rare indeed.  The Saints.  The Apostles.  Only one Man who ever walked this earth was born perfectly humble.  Many great men have determined, however, that it is in their best interest to strive to be humble as a key component to their success plan.  The General, George Washington, for example, may not have always acted with perfect humility.  May have even had a number of humiliating episodes in his life.  Hey, admitting he cut down the cherry tree was probably personally humiliating.  But what is the legacy of this great Man?    Well for one, how 'bout possessing complete and absolute power after accepting Cornwallis' surrender at Yorktown, and then turning right around and VOLUNTARILY RESIGNING HIS COMMAND AS SUPREME COMMANDER OF THE CONTINENTAL ARMY!  Yeah, went back to his farm.  In fact, King George III of Great Britain had this to say about this very act:

 The king asked his American painter, Benjamin West, what Washington would do after winning independence. West replied, “They say he will return to his farm.”

“If he does that,” the incredulous monarch said, “he will be the greatest man in the world."

     Humble.  Humble act.  Subsuming his personal influence and power for the good of his new, beloved nation.   The General had indeed performed a humble act, of course, thereby adding to his personal stores of humility.  As the recipients of this historical largesse, we today gratefully confer the assessment of humility onto this great man.  The General himself would probably regard this act as his duty.    Remember, whereas humiliation by definition is something negative YOU feel or perceive, humility is something earned by a selfless act and is often conferred onto you by others.   The Final Judgement on this is up to God on that very definitive Day.

     Feeling  humiliated is a very common, very human preoccupation.  Humility is also to be found among we humans, but it is a much rarer commodity.  And,  be very careful, because you yourself might think that you are acting humbly, and  well Pards, that can be a very slippery slope.  Your self-assessment may or may not be accurate.  A Man's instinct to self-aggrandize, so the latter is the most probable.  Let others make this important assessment of your character.  More accurate, and ultimately a lot more gratifying.  Trust me on this.   

     Now, The Cid both humbled AND humiliated the King of Spain when he publicly forced his hand onto the Bible to swear.  Confused?  How could both disparate assessments be true at the same time?  Well, the King, because he was in fact a weasel, was humiliated by this public act.  As King, he felt it was beneath him, insulting to his authority to have an underling require this swearing.  Again, he felt humiliated.  But what if, on the other hand, the King was truly humble, why ever would he be perturbed at having to publicly swear to the Almighty God?  Simply because he did not actually believe he was subservient to anyone, including God.  The Cid, and Lazarus for that matter, did accept their subservience to God, and that is why from their perspective the forceful act was a humbling one.  With sincere humility, The Cid had to be sure he was dedicating his sword, and consequently his very life, to a King wise enough to demonstrate to his subjects his humility to The Almighty.  The noble Cid's intent was not to inflict humiliation.  It was the King's own arrogance, his own self-centered selfishness that created the feeling of humiliation in his own mind.  A quite instructive vignette on the stark contrast between humility and humiliation.

        So what is the Old Doc clumsily trying to get at?  Just this:  Some Men think primarily of themselves and their own needs, feelings and butt hurts.  They are selfish and self-centered.  This is the group that tends to experience a far greater share of the world's humiliations because their very arrogance casts a wide net for perceived slights and emotional bruises.  They are arrogant because they tend to put their own gratification before their subservience to God.

     Other Men often consider, and serve, the needs of others.  They tend to be more eager to please The Almighty, and His will.  Interestingly enough, these self-interested Men are generally more selfless.  In contradistinction to selfishness, self-interest causes a Man to concern himself with the more elevated virtues of honor, integrity and courage -- yes, in order to better serve God, his Master.  The by-product of surrendering one's will and life over to the care of God is, of course, the virtuous humility that is so difficult to define, and for many even more tedious to achieve.

     It is here that I might begin to close with the literary technique of acknowledging that some of you Men continue to feel "uncomfortable" with the Old Doc constantly harping on religious themes.  Sorry Pal, I simply will not pretend to "sympathize" with you.  You have just got to grow up someday.  You have simply got to open your eyes so that you might see;  and your ears that you might hear.  Your Feminist teachers have lied to you.  Your Leftist media bimbos and himbos have lied to you.  Marx, himself a leech and child abandoner, lied to you.  Celebrity homosexual heroes have lied to you.  Race pimps have lied to you. Che lied to you.  Cowardly Politicians daily lie to you.  Grifters like the Clintons have lived one giant scam and lie.

     Your queasiness with The Almighty God and his Commandments were unknown to such Masculine icons such as General Andrew Jackson, General Sam Houston, General U.S. Grant, General George Patton, Sergeant Alvin York, Chief Petty Officer Chris Kyle,  and every Pilgrim on the Mayflower.

Hero of San Jacinto

     No Fellas, the concerted efforts of the Left, beginning with the early European Socialists that rallied around the ultimate Wayne's World hero,  Karl Marx (fact:  Marx never held a job, fleeced his parents dry, philandered on his wife, and abandoned his own children);  the Godless Socialists, the Communists, the Progressives, the Liberals have systematically propagandized our Christian Western culture to doubt the very foundational morality of fidelity to our Heavenly Father and the sacrifice of his only Begotten Son.  You bet.  Doubt God, break up the family, villainize private property, and denigrate the American Man.  For a hundred years now this committed Left has encouraged and skillfully manipulated the wackos, yeah, they let the dogs out.  Feminists, Race pimps, Hippies, Enviro Nutjobs, and now the Homosexual Fascist create ongoing and sufficient societal confusion to make a Man's head spin.  And become easily deceived in the process.  Right-- Iran is our friend, go ahead give them a nuke.  And  Israel needs to be jilted.  Whatever........  American Men huddled in fear, teeth chattering behind Bruce Jenner's skirts......YIKES!

     So, how is that "doubting God" piece working out for you Boyz these days?  Your kids being taught how to cross-dress in grade schools.  California drying like a prune to save the doomed Delta Smelt.  Males marrying males, and females marrying females.  Males divorcing males, and females divorcing females.  Black males torching cities without repercussion.  Politicians overtly pocketing our tax dollars AND EVEN LINING THE POCKETS OF FOREIGN CROOKS WITH THOSE SAME TAX DOLLARS!  And to top it all off, it is YOU, the American Man,  who is being blamed for all of this detritus.   Let me stop.  The Old Doc is feeling nauseated.

     Humble yourselves Mates.  Read the Good Book.  Make the Ten Commandments your life commands.  Imagine for a brief moment all of the ramifications of folks thinking of you as the Man who "would humble a king" and yet provide drink for a thirsty leper.  Imagine you standing tall, and standing up for the weak, like say, our schoolchildren;  the helpless, like say, the unborn babies;  and the disadvantaged, like say, the American taxpayer who works hard and plays by the rules.  What a concept!  You Men, what about standing up for the U.S. Constitution and the U.S. Bill of Rights;  you know, for the sake of the Faithful (First Amendment), and the Armed Citizen (Second Amendment).  You know Pards, for the greatest country the world has ever produced;  the greatest friend the common man has ever had;  and the only real, last, and final hope for all of Mankind.  Yeah Boyz, America, Land that Used To Be Free, and Home of the Formerly Brave.

     In the paradox of all paradoxes, your gonads with grow proportionately in direct proportion to the amount of true Humility you attempt to cultivate on that dry, parched, alkaline soil known as your miserable character.  Standing tall, Fellas, requires getting on your knees.  Mutter a little prayer to God,  Pal, beg forgiveness for your dopey ignorance and ask for the wisdom and strength to serve the true Master of All Things.  In this way you may just someday catch a fleeting glimpse of true Manhood.  You Millennials may be lost causes.....I don't know......God is All Powerful, however, His Wonders to perform......you never know..............Doc

Commandments and Manly Honor

     Well yes, how should a Manly Man comport himself in this confused cultural soup?  Who is setting the rules?  What are the rules?  Whatever is a modern Man to think? Who is the modern Man to believe?  To follow?  To emulate?  To admire?....I hear you Boyz, I feel a headache coming on myself.....

     In times past, a boy had a much easier time in America.  His father's Manhood was fully endorsed by his mother.  He was raised in the Scriptures, and basically tried to be worthy of General Washington, or Dan'l Boone, or Andy Jackson, or U.S. Grant, Charles Lindberg, or General Patton.  And very often, his very own Pop.  The confusing part of growing to Manhood today,  is that the cards all come up secular, in the school, on TV, in the movies, and on the college campus.  Mothers subvert and ridicule the father.  Scriptures are for bygone days.  Gary Cooper movies.

     And take the role models of today.....PLEASE, take them.   With the American boy today infused with a steady stream from iTunes, Facebook, YouTube, Twitter and Hulu, he is facing a choice among such heroes as Fifty-Cents, Bill Clinton, Ben Affleck, Ricky Martin, Matt Damon, and.....Michael Douglas?!?

     Listen Pard, why not try these size-Tens on for a test drive?   Yes sir, the Ten Commandments......Been around a long time.  Nice guideposts for an ever-wandering young Man.  Ancient truths.  Tried and true.  Allowed Christian countries to rule the earth.  Common sense.  A reasonable alternative to the modern Millennial broth of made-up, 7-11, tattoo, anything-goes morality,  ay Fellas?  In the long run, these will get you farther than Rand Paul will, fo' sho'.  And you can forgo the men's lingerie, even.

   
     Let me zero in on three of them in order to try and illustrate how important and useful the Ten Commandments can really be in Realville.

"Honor thy father and thy mother."

"Thou shalt not steal"

"Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's goods"

     There are, of course, many examples of infractions of these three God-given laws.  Let us zero in on one teeny-tiny faux pas that keeps tripping up Men today.   Sort 'uv illustrates the Old Doc's meaning, so to speak.  Yeah, just for gags, let's throw this one up against the wall and see what sticks.  Sure, sure, something small.  Doesn't really hurt anyone.  Not like murder.  I mean, won't get you thrown out of Heaven, right mates?......Let's see....'um......well.....like.....GOT IT!  How 'bout let's discuss living with a gal BEFORE you marry her.........'gulp.'

     Yeah, that reflex swallow, and drying mouth is your dear Old Doc becoming physiologically stressed with this topic.  I can see your horse eye now;  that indignant glare, the rolling of the eyes, the averting glances with that knowing look that "yeah, you know how the Old Geezer is."  Hell, everybody does it.....Does what?  Oh, you mean, shack up;  hook up;  go to the next level;  make a commitment;  go to the next step?  Euphemisms all for the more precise -- sharing a private bed with a gal in order to have free carnal knowledge of her, all the while playing "house" without any of those pesky, old-fashioned, legal, moral, and honorable contracts with both the gal and her family?  And your own family too, now that I think of it......yeah, no biggie....I mean, who gets hurt?  You have the very best intentions, right?  Honest Injun', right?  Cross my heart and hope to die, right?  Scout's honor, right?

     Before we delve into who are the injured parties, let's examine what violations you have committed my young Male Gonads.  If she is over 18, American jurisprudence is OK with this.  Rand Paul doesn't mind.  All your friends high-five your "commitment."  Hollywood glorifies and institutionalizes your good fortune.  And besides, now you get your meals cooked, your skivvies washed, and some free nooky with one fell-swoop!  Word.......or is it?....The Word, I mean.

     No fellas.  Sorry to break it too you, but shacking up is WRONG.  If you did it;  if you think it;  if you are OK with it, YOU ARE WRONG.  Your pretend-house, your private sexual release, and your dishonorable rationalizations are simply more blather being spoon-fed into your brain so that your promiscuity dominates your existence.  So much easier this way to rob you of your honor, your integrity, yea your Manhood if instead of the Heavenly,  you are obsessed only with your pecker.  Who is trying to rob this of you?  And why?  I have tried to provide you with a framework to answer the "how come?" in previous essays, but allow me to summarize:  The greatest experiment in Marxism took place in the Soviet Union.  (A brilliant new way to exploit the masses I might add).  Upon gaining predominance, the Bolsheviks purged Russia of religion, family values, the sanctity of marriage, and monogamy.  You bet, even encouraged pornography.  Marxism, Leninism, Sovietism, Socialism, and American Liberalism have all been exported to free-America and have sought to obliterate the exact same moral institutions here on free, family-oriented, Christian soil.  Much easier to deceive "the people" this way;  much more compliant population;  much easier for the elite to rule without the messiness of strong family ties, and Men and women both bound together by God's mandates.  After all, Stalin, Mao, Che, Obama and Hiliary are ever so much more capable of directing your life, what you eat, what you drive, who you like, who you vilify....than you are, ay Mate?

     So, where does it say you cannot "move-in" together?  Well, in a least three of the Ten Commandments of God.  Right there, on the Stone tablets.  You "go to the next level" by helping to unpack Susie's panties, you are certainly NOT honoring thy father and thy mother, neither yours nor hers.  That's One.  And Two, thou truly art stealing.  You are stealing her honor, her dignity, and in some cases her virginity.  The fact that she is willing, and that she is totally ignorant of true morality because of the success of cultural Feminism, is no recommendation for you to abandon your own road to Manhood.  This is where a Man stands up for the girl he loves (or presumably loves);  as well as her parents, and YOUR parents for crying out loud!

    And Three, remember, you were supposed to not covet thy neighbors goods.  Yeah, sorry Fellas.  Susie is someone else's UNTIL YOU MARRY BEFORE GOD, BEFORE HER FATHER AND HER FAMILY. She is someone else's daughter;  someone else's sister.  And even though she's done the whole varsity football team and has a tramp-stamp,  taking advantage of a deceived, ignorant, badly mis-informed modern gal is nevertheless dis-HONOR-able;  dis-GRACE-ful; un-CHRIST-ian;  and un-MAN-ly.  You so coveted her that you dis-honor-ed all of the parents;  you steal her away from her family, her morality.    And all because you covet her back rubs, her stir-fry, her sharing your rent, and of course, her warm, bare crotch on those cold winter nights.  Real hero you are........

     So you are so hip, so modern, ay Bro'?  Yeah, your Baby Boomer parents even play-act like all this is just great!  Parents of the un-married getting together, everybody acting like there is something moral, something real going on.  Howda' your parents refer to her when chatting with her parents anyway:  "My son's spouse?  Live in?  Sugar-schack in?  Consort?  Whore?  Sure, sure, they've got the dog, the cat, and the shared hair-dryers...and everything!  The Shack-ups showing up for Christmas morning;  for the Old Warrior's 80th birthday party;  and for a Thanksgiving dinner.  Sometimes the Shack-ups even lend an opinion on family matters, as if they have even a shred of legitimacy with which to even opine.  The Shack-ups even get miffed if they are not treated with due deference, "as a couple", of course.  The beat goes on.  The babies inevitably are born.  The tats spread like herpes.  And everyone is ever so happy in this make-believe La-La Land.

     Just one problem with this nirvana Lads.  I will not herein speak for Susie, but I will speak to you, and of you, my intrepid Dude.  You have no anchor when you "live" together.  You have got all the perks of concubinage  with none of the "ball and chain" responsibilities of marriage (and glory, I might add).  You can leave at any time, and your sub-conscience knows it.  There it is......  She stops being your soul-mate.  And besides, Heather's fragrant tail and unbelievable rack  is starting to affect you.   Susie is always nagging about this or that, but Heather?  She "understands me", and what a wildcat under the sheets!  You know this because you have had an "open" relationship with Susie.  I mean, "we live together, we're NOT MARRIED" after all.   You know you can bed down any heifer you please with impunity, and certainly without giving up 50 percent of everything you own!  No 50-50 here Boyz --  its 100% you, and a sexually transmitted disease for her.  Big Man.  Pecker works.......  No honor though.

     So, for whatever reason, you split up.  Didn't work out.  "We needed to move on." Get on with our lives.  Yeah......the kids start calling the new live-in "poppa", everybody gets new tats, you get a newer, firmer, less nagging Main Squeeze.   Your visits to your Sperm-babies get less and less frequent, your endless supply of sperm creates a new baby with Heather, you make her parent's Secret Santa rotation for Christmas, and everything is cool again.  Just a brief burp-fart between live-ins, no biggy.  But now your parents met her parents and played pretend in-laws for nothing.  Absolutely nothing!  Well, except for the Grand-sperm-babies, the Grand-doggies, and lots of pics of all the new tattoos.  Yeah, the pretend-in-laws are left with a lot of faux "family" stories, pretend family stories, and lots of , ahem, excuses as to the whereabouts of the Sperm donor.  Not to mention skirting around the whorish residual that they used to refer to as "our little girl."  That's right Pal -- you have succeeded in turning their little Susie into a prostitute that gives it up for free....plus help with the rent, a free cook, and clean chonies.

     So, a little while ago you were wondering "just who does shacking-up hurt anyway?"  Puleeeeze Brudda!  Who is hurt?   WHO ISN'T HURT!!!  The little Spermies who spend the rest of their lives with the revolving Daddies.  The gals you have helped to now achieve prostitute status.  The family you have forced to make up ever changing names for your carnal sins.  Your mamma and pop who have to bear this shame forever.  And her mamma and pop who regret not protesting about your sorry ass in the first place.  You enjoyed her pink panties;  the rest of them are left mopping up your semen.  Forevermore.

     But the most significant casualty of your casualness is....drumroll......YOUR Manhood.....Yup, integrity, honor, character, reputation -- all take a grievous hit.  You fess up to yourself, make amends, and as Nat King Cole used to sing, "straighten up and fly right", and yes, you can recover with time.  But if you continue to pretend that this was simply a right of passage, "everybody does it" -- yeah, "it was consensual" --  you become a Dude, a Guy, a Puto.....for all time.  You despoil the gal;  the Spermites; the Family;  and your country.  You add nothing grand to the fabric of America, and believe this Boyz:  The Maker of Man will not approve.....ever.....do not doubt me on this.  Manhood Lost.   

     THAT is why, ma Bruthas, her parents would be wise to treat you like shit nearly every second they are around you until you ask them for her hand;  they see the ring on her finger;  they get a firm date;  and they hear your sorry ass say, "I do."  Oh sure, her parents can be polite to her "date", maybe even her "steady boyfriend."  But until he says "I do" he has ZERO status with her family;  he is NOT part of planning for family events;  and he certainly does NOT make the Secret Santa list.  There is no status for some guy who just wants to get into their precious little girl's bloomers!  You are an interloper; a predator;  a bum.  Default.

     It is YOU that needs to prove to them that you, in fact,  are even worthy of the sweat off her Daddy's balls.  This is your quest.  This is a matter of YOUR honor.  Obeying His Commandments is the true foundation of your Manhood.  Obeying the Master of All Things brings to you personal honor.  You acting honorably enhances the dignity and honor of your new gal.  Boosting her dignity, brings honor to her mamma and her Pop.  Acting with honor brings joy, gratitude and honor to your own mamma and Pop.  Wow!  What a concept!  Purty good deal, I'd say.

     See how easy that is?  With all that cultural mayhem and flotsam in the way, I repeat, whatever is a young Millennial Male to do?  Well this Old Fossil just gave you AN answer.  But let the Old Doc give you some timeless advice.  One, never take a stock tip from your cab driver;  and two,  ALWAYS bet on God, His wonders to perform.  Yup, that's right, The Ten Commandments. THE rules.  THE way.

     Go ahead Fellas, play pretend all your lives.  Pretend that Feminism is your ticket to easy snatch.  No fuss, no muss.  She wants it, after all.  She has no problem with multiple Sperm donors.  But let us communicate, Man to Man, for a second, shall we Friends?  This Old Doc, this medical professional of over 30 years has herein peppered you with vulgar, salty locker room descriptive phrases....Hey it works for all your closest advisers, doesn't it?  Your buds;  the  "cool" older Fellas that ingratiate themselves with you by talking hip, slick and cool;  the Hollywood stars that have "street" cred in showering each sentence with biological acts and anatomical body parts......So forgive the vulgarity my sensitive Pals, but that too begets an important point.  Behaving in a manner that disregards the Ten Commandments is the ticket to molding a vulgar, crass, dishonorable, tragic, ruinous, selfish, self-centered, petty life,  that will be easily disgarded and forgotten.

     Fellas, resist the powerful forces that are eroding daily the imperative of traditional Manhood.  Hitch your wagon to Him that created the first Man.  In your imperfect but sincere efforts, building your life within His Ten Commands is the right prescription for honor, truth, family, joy, and yes Pal, Eternal Life.  In our last essay we spoke of Integrity as a pathway to honor.  The Commandments guide you into a lifetime of integrity.  Keep you from blowing away by the vagaries of every wind.  Keep you from making trivial and frivolous life-decisions.  Keep you from dishonoring their Little Girl.  And keep you from voting for Rand Paul..........Doc

Post Script:

By the way ma Bruthas, if you have already messed this up in your own life, just remember it is never too late to right a grievous wrong.  Because you break a Commandment, or several, is not reason to avoid the subject with your progeny.  You gotta break the downward spiral, or else it will just be magnified with each generation.   St. Paul always said that he was "the biggest Sinner of them all......."